Take the step

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Kamani Alicia Goodwill
 I was in a relationship for almost five years and I loved that person very much I did everything that a girlfriend was suppose to do but that did not stop him from cheating on me I wanted to end the relationship but I loved him and secondly I felt like I needed him as he was the only father figure to my son and he was great it  I forgave him he apologized.  Then it happened again this one hurt me the most because this person he cheated with was so disrespectful towards me . I forgave him again but he never stopped .I wanted to leave but I was scared to go on my own ...the cheating  continued and even a baby came along from his unfaithfulness long story short I just disconnected emotionally from him but I still loved him and I couldn't find the strength t to leave i was unhappy yet contented simultaneously I felt like nobody could love me and care for me as he do. I started seeking advice from people I came from under my shell and I would tell myself " you won't know what's out there if you don't take the step eventually I moved out his house with my child it was the worst feeling in the world you know you go from seeing  someone everyday laughing arguing....it was hard but I felt strong taking that  step sometimes we have to walk away from people who makes us feel weak unloved and unappreciated ...letting is hard but holding on can cause more harm. I have learnt to not be so dependent on people because you will get comfortable and they'll see you need them and they'll take advantage of you...we as women need to learn to struggle on our own but most of all love ourselves continuously and take that step don't stay because of fear or doubts if you're not being treated like the queen you are walk away but the key is to do it on your own timing never let anyone pressure you or don't feel stupid for waiting so long to take the step ...its your life take control...love is not suppose to hurt. 

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